Now that I have braved the battlefront of surviving without a sponsor, it is time to talk about surviving without a meeting.
I know a couple of alcoholics in sobriety who do not attend AA. They are former members, not current members of AA.
How do they do it? Why do they do it? Huh?
Let’s break down the reasons why these two former AA’s do not attned meetings. For reasons of their own, after working the program and being heavily in service, their attendance dropped off slowly. One of them went to out of state meetings only for awhile, then finally quite going to meetings at all. The other popped a resentment, had had enough, and walked away.
Both are excellent members of society, and they work very hard. They are generous, very kind people. They are a joy to be around.
Wait a minute? What about the 90 in 90 I talked about in the last post? What about keep coming back it works? What about …..?
Breathe. Both of these individuals had over 10 years of sobriety when they walked away from AA meetings. Both of these individuals work the program. Both of these individuals had successfully worked all 12 steps several times before walking away.
There are times in my own history, when I could not physically attend meetings for months. I was stuck in bed and very ill. Here is how I survived.
I joined some online email meetings. I worked the steps, and I did a 5th step with my priest. When I was able to get out of bed, I tried attending meetings to the best of my ability. I also kept in touch with my sponsors and worked as hard as I could.
I was miserable, and lonely.
Again, I do not recommend this for anyone. It is not easy being in recovery, but not getting support and reinforced by other alcoholics. I sunk into a deep depression.
Now, just to let you know, I do attend at least 3 meetings per week. Some times, I attend 3 meetings per day. Most of those are online, due to finances and geography. I do the best I can to get to AA on a face to face level.
That’s all I have for now. May God be with you today and every day.